Golden leaves swirl around with chilly gusts of wind as temperatures gradually decrease. There’s finally snow on the San Francisco Peaks. The holidays are coming. Along with the change in weather comes a change in routine.
For some of us, Thanksgiving break means a trip back to wherever we’re from and a lot of good food.
There are a lot of things I love about Thanksgiving. I love the attitude of gratitude everyone seems to cling to. I love turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, stuffing and all the other fixin’s. I love the chance I have to reunite with cousins and siblings who are away at school or busy with their own lives. I love spontaneous football games in the backyard and hugs from my mom.
With all of this, there is something about Thanksgiving that I absolutely detest — a dreaded question that I can never seem to avoid: Do you have a boyfriend?
The question usually comes after a glorious meal, in the happy afterglow of shoving way too much good food into my stomach.
It’s not the question of “do you” that gets on my nerves so much, but the shining of pity in their eyes and the furrowing of their foreheads when they follow it up with, “Well, why not?”
I haven’t had a boyfriend since my senior year of high school, so I’ve had enough time to know that the classic, “I’m just taking these college years to work on myself and my future,” doesn’t satisfy the masses. But, the thing is, it’s the truth.
If I wanted to have a boyfriend, I could within the hour, thanks to Habib.
He is a wonderful man I’ve known since I was 18. We met at church, and Habib fell hard right from the get-go. We built a friendship and went on dates, but for nearly two years now, I’ve been very open that I‘m not looking for a relationship while I’m at school.
Habib handled the situation as everyone should. He said OK and validated my decisions without any weirdly invasive questions about why or implying that I was a freak for choosing not to get exclusive with him or anyone else.
There’s nothing wrong with me or anyone else who is single over Thanksgiving. Sometimes, a relationship just isn’t in the cards for you when everyone else is deep into cuffing season, which is notorious for couples forming and holidays approaching.
This Thanksgiving, let’s throw away the questions about relationships like we throw away the cranberry sauce.