No one gets the final rose in real life

Illustration by Amy Czachowski

That’s right, I’m saying it. “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette” flaunt toxic, unhealthy and unrealistic relationships. Fundamentally, these shows are made to set up any and all lovers for failure and pain.

Combined, the two shows have aired for over 30 seasons. This is unbelievable due to their artificial and over-the-top nature.

Every aspect of each show is manufactured to exaggerate any and all conflict, distress and real emotion. And, as anticipated, it glazes over all the things that could make it a successful experience for the hopeful singles.

First, this show is set across two months. This is a delusional and improbable amount of time for people to find love and let it flourish, especially considering the fact that these people are to be engaged by the end of the two months.

Not to mention, there are roughly 20 to 30 contestants on the show in the beginning. Truthfully, no human can realistically form genuine and wholesome relationships with an amount of contestants similar to that of a high school classroom.

By the end of their time on the show, people are more deprived of love instead of getting any taste of the one reason why they were on the show in the first place.

The impacts can go as far as tarnishing some of the contestants’ self-esteem and willingness to date in the future, because the show gives them this subconscious fear of losing the connection to their love interest in its premature stages.

All of this, only eight couples total in both renditions of the show have ended up following through and staying together. Which, speaking of, is less than a 50% chance for these couples to have actually been successful because of the show.

Even after it all, people apparently seem to believe this carefully crafted illusion of what love should be is worthy of adoring.

Anyone who is hypnotized by their TV screen into thinking that this is the full scope of the story is living a fantasy.

Aside from the polished black limousines and fresh red roses, the things that occur prior to filming are shocking.

As if the shows weren’t emotionally gruesome enough, contestants even postpone their careers with the vain belief that they will find fortune and fame on the show.

Some have spoken out about this struggle. J.J. Lane, a contestant from season 11 of “The Bachelorette,” told MarketWatch that he had issues finding a job after the show aired. Lane said in the article, “Everyone knows who you are, and employers see it as a distraction.”

Overall, these are extremely grim circumstances to find and maintain what is supposed to be everlasting love. It is foolish and unrealistic to believe these relationships are anywhere near equipped for marriage status and everyday life without cameras around.

These are merely formulated relationships, although the word “relationships” is not even accurate to what these shows create.

No one should idolize others’ lives on TV. If someone expects to have a relationship exactly like the ones portrayed on “The Bachelor” in real life, they are in for a rude awakening.

Real life isn’t roses and beach getaways, and real love takes time to foster and cultivate.