One of the major struggles for students fresh out of high school is the physical distance from their loved ones. After living in a comfortable bubble for the entirety of one’s life, it can be difficult to step away from the familiarity of home.
It is crucial, though, that an individual is given healthy distance from family to discover themselves in their own time and on their own terms.
This is not to say that it is an easy process. The difficulty of leaving the nest does not lessen the importance of taking the first step into a life of independence. One may find new qualities and skills within themselves that went undetected while being under their parent’s roof.
Being a naturally introverted and independent person has made my transition smoother than it may have been for others. I tend to feel suffocated by heavy surveillance from my family.
Granted, every situation is unique to the person, as is the process toward independence.
For most, the college experience is all about living life to the fullest. This reason is exactly why I believe it is vital that a person is allowed healthy distance from family. There is a balance that must be discovered on both ends of the relationship.
The fine line between smothering a young adult and guiding them in the right direction is a balancing act for most families. College students must set boundaries for their parents to respect.
The circumstances college may bring can permit family to be constricting at times. Constant pestering and worry from family can be too much for a young adult who is trying to spread their wings.
That is not to say that their worry is unreasonable or goes unappreciated. Simply put, young adults yearn to experiment with freedom and the opportunity to float between self-reliance and the need for family connection.
The sooner a person’s family can understand that, the sooner they will find that their relationship has transformed.
Too much involvement from relatives can stunt personal growth. No one should remain completely dependent on their family beyond a certain age.
Having said that, I don’t necessarily encourage ghosting family members as an acceptable way to achieve that distance. I believe it’s wrong to ghost anyone, even more so when it is a family member. If the process of independence is given time and patience, it can be a gradually freeing adventure and can be supplemental in strengthening the bonds between family members.