Pillow Talk

Has it ever seemed like a romantic partner dropped off the face of the Earth? Did the person that you have been talking to just stop responding to you out of nowhere?

If so, you may have been ghosted.

The term ghosting means to end a personal relationship with someone suddenly and without explanation by cutting off communication with that person.

Being ghosted brings a haunting feeling. I have been on both sides of the situation. People have ghosted me, but I am also guilty of ghosting people. Either way, it is never an ideal situation.

A lot of questions can run through someone’s head. It is hard not to question whether or not you did something wrong for them to stop talking to you.

Don’t take it too personally. The person ghosting you could be dealing with their own insecurities that they don’t want to confront.

Ghosting can happen for many different reasons. It can be overwhelming when it seems like a relationship is getting intense too quickly. If both people are not on the same page, it gets complicated. Instead of telling the other person they are not interested in a serious relationship at the moment, they may find it easier to ghost the other person. Confrontation is hard. Having an emotional conversation is tricky for some.

In certain circumstances, it is OK to ghost someone. When trying to break off a casual relationship by hinting that you are no longer interested, ghosting might be the best option for the situation. If the other person is not taking the hint, cutting off contact is OK.

Ghosting sends a message within itself. When being ghosted, the message is clear that the other person is no longer interested.

There is no need to feel bad about ghosting someone you are casually dating. You don’t owe it to them to respond. There is no obligation to a person you are not in a relationship with.

When it comes to relationships, it is a different situation. Don’t ever ghost a significant other. After developing a close relationship with another person, closure should be given. Disappearing from that person’s life with little to no explanation is immature and disrespectful.

I’m not saying that you should break up with someone by ghosting them. Before making the decision to ghost the person you are talking to, consider your situation. If it is casual, then there is no harm in ghosting, but don’t leave the haunting feeling of being ghosted with someone you were once in a relationship with.